Some other helpful tidbits she recommended:
We are so grateful to Veronica for imparting so much wisdom with us while peppering it with realness and humor.
How about you? Any mindful eating or healthy living morsels to share with the Herd? Let’s keep this learning going. Please comment below!
1. Naming Our Herd
How could we forget that night?!?! Sitting at Carolyn's kitchen table well into the wee hours trying to name our creation.
We knew we wanted "Inspired" as part of the name, but Inspired What???? Nothing felt quite right but after a few hours and some (OK LOTS) of wine, we finally came up with Inspired Elephant.
It helped that Carolyn had all sorts of elephant-themed decor in her house! Here we are five years later, we still love the name, elephants are still Carolyn's favorite animal, and we are over-the-moon proud of the community we've built and how it continues to grow and evolve.
2. Vision Board Fun
Our inaugural Vision Board Workshop. It was just so gratifying to see all the elements of our collaborative work, hopes, and dreams come together in a room filled with like-minded souls. And it was so much fun!
The energy in the room was AMAZING. Everyone was incredibly open and supportive of one another; all united in the desire to breathe light into our respective dreams and encourage others in the process.
We were a room of single women, wives, girlfriends, mothers, career women, and stay-at-home moms who all carved out time in our very busy lives to assert that our dreams are important, and we need to nurture them.
And many of those women still attend our events to this day! It all started with that first vision board workshop.
3. Inspirational Retreats
It is one thing to find the support and love from your local community (filled with friends and loved ones) but when we took our first IE trek outside our own backyard it was so thrilling.
In the mountains, by the lake, on the hiking paths, and in rustic cabins, we found only love and support for our IE message. It confirmed that what we set out to build was needed. Our Herd grew with each retreat and we got the pleasure of connecting with inspirational women while enjoying the beauty of nature.
We look forward to the day when we can once again enjoy an inspired IE trek.
Hello Herd Sister!
I recently gleaned a nugget that I want to pass along to our Inspired Herd. It's a meditation tip that's really been working for me, so of course, I wanted to share!
Set aside 5-15 min to meditate. I like to set a timer because it keeps me from peeking at the clock. Call it quiet time or you time. Whatever you want to call it, it’s sacred time spent in a comfortable position, eyes closed, breathing fully and regularly.
As racing thoughts begin to fade, to-do lists drift away, and you are just BEING in the moment, choose a feeling you want to focus on.
I’ll give you an example. This morning, I chose clarity. In the midst of working from home with wonky WiFi, my kids being home full time, selling my house, and getting projects done in the new house has me running here, there, and everywhere. Yesterday, I couldn’t remember if I had set an appointment with the electrician or if he was going to call me back to set it up. I also double booked myself to be at two different places at once and couldn’t find my keys for a good 10 minutes.
I hate feeling disorganized. Don't you? It feels like having lost all sense of agency and being at the whim of your day.
Universe, give me clarity! So towards the end of my meditation, I imagined what it would feel like to have that clarity. I saw myself as more of a pre-Covid version of me with a routine knowing where everything was. and what needed to happen and when. I observed this less-frazzled version of myself as she led the charge in her day and admired how composed she was because she was on top of everything. I loved it! It felt so good to feel so COMPETENT.
This is how I chose to start my day: deliberately and with intent. I already feel good. I know what needs to happen, and I’m not rushed or stressed because I know on top of it.
And that is what I want for you!
What feeling are you missing, *|FNAME|*? Perhaps it’s joy, health, calm, or even wealth. Whatever it is, place your focus on what you want to be prevalent in your life. If you focus on it as something that's lacking from your life, it will always be just that. I want you to feel what it feels like to already have it. I promise it will completely shift your outlook and upgrade your mood several notches.
I suggest focusing on a theme for a few days in a row so you just get used to creating the expectation of it. Almost like creating a new habit!
Please let me know how it goes for you here.
Have a beautiful and intention-filled weekend.
P.S. Have you signed up yet for our September Sister Talk on easy, mindful, and healthy eating? It's FREE and happening Wednesday, September 23rd at 7:00pm via Zoom. We hope to "see" you there!
Being right or refusing to grow or change is not worth the price of peace.
The other a-ha moment came when she said this: "Your body is loving you into existence."
Our bodies do soooo much for us, including how it takes on stress. Our bodies speak a language all their own if we just take the time to listen, take note, observe, and feel. If we developed this level of connection and intimacy with our own bodies, we can truly heal ourselves and live the life our soul longs for.
Finally, Dr. Lynch suggests setting your affirmations to music. For those of us that feel funny saying affirmations aloud, this can actually make it so much more enjoyable and less weird.
We are so grateful to Dr. Lynch for imparting so much wisdom with us, peppering it with humor, and teaching us a valuable self-care tool that helps us find our way back to peace.
How about you? What are you resisting in your life right now? What are you feeling? Where are you feeling it in your body? Please comment below!
For those of you that joined us in this Sister Talk, how do you feel about tapping and the affirmations? Is this something you think you will put into practice? Please share your feedback with us in the comments below. Let' s keep the conversation going!
P.S. We will pause our Sister Talk series in August. See you in September!
Do you have a favorite or lucky number?
I do. It's the number, 3. Even Schoolhouse Rock agrees with me that it is, in fact, a MAGIC number. Thank you, Bob Dorough!
I've always loved 3. I am one of three children. I am the mother of three children. Three is the number of the Trinity which for some is Father, Son, and Holy Ghost; and for others, it's Mind, Body, and Spirit. For me, it's both.
One of my often-used sayings? "Third time's a charm."
When I attempt something and I am not successful the first 2 times, I ALWAYS go for the third time. And, it works like a charm for me.
Case in point: We've been househunting and had previously and unsuccessfully bid on 2 homes. I turned to my partner and my realtor after the second attempt and announced, "No worries. Third time's a charm. The next one will be our house." And it was!
Finally, my other favorite saying that elicits eyeball-rolling from my children? "It's as easy as 1,2,3!"
Want to know what else is as easy as 1, 2, 3? Reducing your stress and anxiety.
It's true! In as little as 3 minutes, EFT or Tapping can calm your nervous system by as much as 43% (did you catch that second 3? See what I mean???)
How does EFT work? Simply put, this self-healing practice consists of tapping with your fingertips on specific meridian points while talking through negative thoughts or emotions. Doing so sends a signal to your amygdala (personal alarm system) that all is OK.
If you are at all curious or interested, we encourage you to join us for our next Sister Talk on Tuesday, July 7th at 7 pm. International speaker, author, and healer, Dr. Terry Lynch, will teach us about the science of Tapping, how it works, and guide us through tapping exercises.
This self-care tool is something you can learn and do for yourself whenever and wherever you need to. How empowering is that?!
All it takes is 3 minutes before you begin to feel the results!
I can hold a plank for 3 minutes but I am not quite seeing those results yet. I think I'd rather tap.
And it's FREE (which rhymes with three!).
Please join us. All you need is to download the Zoom app. Register here to receive the link to attend.
With so much love,
Life as of late has been handing us all sorts of hard things. Can we get an amen?!
When we’re going through a hard situation, we have a choice to make: RESPOND or REACT.
Sometimes though, we automatically hit the REACT button, without even thinking.
So maybe there is an interim step here.
Let's call it PAUSE.
Pause is not denial or ignoring the situation at hand. Pause means you give yourself the space to process, to feel and then to choose an appropriate response.
So if the way to get to Respond is through Pause, how do we get to Pause?
There are actually many ways -- all of which involve self care which we've talked about, especially in recent months. However, in less than 2 weeks on July 7th at 7:00 pm via Zoom, we will have our next Sister Talk featuring Dr. Terry Lynch who will guide us as we explore EFT or Tapping as a way to Pause.
If you are not familiar with Tapping, it is a scientifically-proven, holistic method to realign the body, mind, and spirit in order to let go of negative emotions and the tension they cause, and then move forward in a positive and mindful direction.
Specifically, EFT involves tapping on acupressure points while focusing on a distinct and troubling issue. Doing so, sends a signal to the amygdala which is the area of the brain responsible for emotions, survival instincts, and memory (Flight or Fight). That's our Panic button. Perceived threats such as a broken dishwasher or bad news stimulate the amygdala and can create anxiety. The idea behind Tapping is to reprogram your response (this is your Pause) to these threats, focus on the anger, grief, or whatever other emotion is holding you down, and to send a signal to the amygdala telling us we are okay.
EFT can be enormously beneficial for so many aspects of your life and place you on the path to living a life filled with positive responses and fewer negative reactions.
And you get to learn it from an expert in the field, in the comfort of your home, in the virtual company of like-minded souls. And did we mention it's free???
Please don't wait for the dishwasher to break or an eyeball-roll from your teen to push you over the edge. Join us!
With so much love,
C & C
Know who you are and know that you are magnificent.
All that you do, from the mundane to the heroic, has significance.
Your role and your mission in this lifetime is to shine your light. You are the lighthouse that offers hope to those caught in the storm. You were made to withstand storms. Storms come to pass. Your soul, however, is eternal. It can outlast any storm.
Honor that which you face and hold it sacred. Your every action and thought has power. In every situation, from the mundane to the heroic, aim high. Choose the highest potential in any given moment and you will soar -- high above those storm clouds.
1. BE REAL - it’s important to be clear and honest about what’s going on when things aren’t going well. Trying to act like nothing is wrong only makes us exhausted and confuses our kids (that intuitively know something is not well). Experts agree there is not a one-size-fits-all guide on how much to say to kids and what words to use; so every Mom needs to decide that based on their child’s personality. But, addressing what’s happening head-on with our children will ease some of the struggles for the whole family.
2. ASK FOR HELP - When it comes to action, this is the key…enlisting allies. Of course, that means you have to be willing to reach out for help. I have a hard time asking people for help but I am super lucky that I have people in my life who recognize that. Those that love us truly want the best for us, but sometimes support needs to be carefully cultivated, even when it feels uncomfortable to us.
3. ADJUST EXPECTATIONS - During stressful times, I have to re-calibrate and scale everything back. This may mean adjusting your expectations of what a normal day looks like, and sometimes that means just surviving until bedtime. It doesn’t even matter if the kids logged in extra screen time, stayed in PJ's all day, did takeout for dinner, etc. Did you make it to bedtime? You’re good.
Parenting is a tough gig under the best of circumstances, and when we’re struggling with stressful, uncertain times it can feel especially overwhelming. I hope knowing that you are not alone has helped a little and that the above ideas can provide some assistance. I leave you with one last reminder…it is totally fine that whatever solutions you pick to cope may not reflect some mythical idea of what motherhood is. And that is OKAY! Keep it real and keep going.
Hiya Sweet Friend,
When things feel out of control, and the news has got you down, stress and anxiety levels tend to skyrocket – and it’s not without reason. Some of you may be or have a loved one directly impacted by the Coronavirus. Others may have lost jobs. Some may be “working from home” while managing their children’s needs. You and your partner may be operating on high-stress levels. For those living alone, this social distancing mandate can be incredibly isolating.
It’s a lot to deal with.
So what’s (self)-love got to do? …got do to with it? Sorry! Tina fans here. We couldn’t resist.
Self-Love allows you to be your best possible self in the worst possible scenario. It enables you to more present and calm in all aspects of your life and better support for your loved ones. Studies show that self-love and -compassion are vital components of strong mental health and keeping anxiety at bay. These studies also demonstrate that having more self-compassion builds resilience in the face of adversity, helping people to recover more quickly from trauma. And just so we’re clear, living though this COVID pandemic IS traumatic.
On Wednesday, May 13th at 7pm, we invite you to join us for Managing Coronavirus-Related Anxiety: A Workshop on Self-Love & Preservation. Self-Love Coach and Psychologist, Joann Tavares, shares her personal journey as someone who deeply struggled with her own sense of self-worth to becoming a Self-Love Ninja . Specifically, she will help you to:
We hope you’ll join us! RSVP here.
Stay inside. Stay healthy. And love yourself.