Hallo Herd Sis,
It's not a typo - that’s dutch for Hello. I’m recently back from a quick but amazing trip to Amsterdam.
To be honest, this trip was booked on a bit of a whim. My partner and I decided to make it happen one weekend morning and as the date approached, we booked all the arrangements including lining up care for our kids.
We hadn't been away together alone in ages and certainly not outside the country.
Seriously, we never do anything like this. It felt so indulgent but we came back feeling renewed and recharged.
Leading up to it, however, I felt guilt, stressed, and worried. I had all those "What Ifs" floating through my mind.
I kid you not, I was considering canceling even as I boarded the plane! It felt so wrong to be doing something solely for our pleasure.
Seriously, how effed up is that?!
Thankfully, everyone survived (including me) and apparently, the world does not depend on me for survival.
In addition to renewing me, this little getaway taught me that I need some reprogramming when it comes to my own selfcare.
Can you relate at all?
I mean, do I have to wait to be an empty-nesting, retiree before I can finally do things for my own pleasure? I know that sounds ridiculous but the strong-willed, judgy-ass voice in my head seems to feel otherwise.
Here is a novel thought: How about prioritizing and scheduling what is important to US?
Not what others expect. What matters most to YOU and me.
This could mean:
It could also mean getting on a plane and crossing an ocean to have an adventure with your partner.
Remember, we need to fill our own cups first so that we can show up wholeheartedly for others without resentment or sacrificing our own wellbeing or happiness. We are worthy too!!!
There are no medals for martyrdom.
Life is today.
Not when the kids are older. Not when we retire. NOW.
With so much love,
Carolyn
It's not a typo - that’s dutch for Hello. I’m recently back from a quick but amazing trip to Amsterdam.
To be honest, this trip was booked on a bit of a whim. My partner and I decided to make it happen one weekend morning and as the date approached, we booked all the arrangements including lining up care for our kids.
We hadn't been away together alone in ages and certainly not outside the country.
Seriously, we never do anything like this. It felt so indulgent but we came back feeling renewed and recharged.
Leading up to it, however, I felt guilt, stressed, and worried. I had all those "What Ifs" floating through my mind.
I kid you not, I was considering canceling even as I boarded the plane! It felt so wrong to be doing something solely for our pleasure.
Seriously, how effed up is that?!
Thankfully, everyone survived (including me) and apparently, the world does not depend on me for survival.
In addition to renewing me, this little getaway taught me that I need some reprogramming when it comes to my own selfcare.
Can you relate at all?
I mean, do I have to wait to be an empty-nesting, retiree before I can finally do things for my own pleasure? I know that sounds ridiculous but the strong-willed, judgy-ass voice in my head seems to feel otherwise.
Here is a novel thought: How about prioritizing and scheduling what is important to US?
Not what others expect. What matters most to YOU and me.
This could mean:
- regularly fitting in non-negotiable time for working out going on hikes
- scheduling date nights and meeting up with friends
- signing up for tango lessons
- going back to school or changing jobs altogether
It could also mean getting on a plane and crossing an ocean to have an adventure with your partner.
Remember, we need to fill our own cups first so that we can show up wholeheartedly for others without resentment or sacrificing our own wellbeing or happiness. We are worthy too!!!
There are no medals for martyrdom.
Life is today.
Not when the kids are older. Not when we retire. NOW.
With so much love,
Carolyn