Last week, we shared our philosophy on resolutions (nay) and creating a mantra for the year (yay). Cher’s word for 2020 is Balance. And now I will share mine.
My word for the year is Change. They say that doing the same thing day after day and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. I REALLY want my life to change this year, so I have taken a cue from George Costanza:
Do you remember this episode? George is single (again), unemployed (again) and living with his parents (again). He announces that every instinct he has is wrong. Jerry suggests that the opposite instinct therefore, must be right. George puts this theory into play and gets the girl, the job with the NY Yankees and out of his parents’ home into a great apartment. Okay, ok...so his luck doesn't last because he is afterall, George Costanza, but you get the picture.
To be clear, I am not literally purporting to do the opposite of what your instinct tells you to do. But, to get out of mindless routine and old habits, I have started doing things differently. And like George, it’s been working for me!
Instead of being practical with my car choice, I upgraded. Nothing crazy but I’ve never allowed myself this luxury. I’ve had the same base model car for 6 years. To be clear, I leased the same make and base model 2x in a row. How freaking boring is that?! That decision was coming more from a place of lack than financial prudence. I decided it was time for a change and so far, I am loving my new ride. I cannot remember the last time I loved my car which is crazy considering how much time I spend driving!
I am saying Yes! to opportunities that present themselves whereas before I would hesitate or say no. Guess what? I am having more fun and meeting and connecting with more people.
I am also actively seeking out new opportunities that my inner perfectionist used to tell myself I wasn’t ready for or had enough experience. I notoriously wait till I have everything figured out before doing something. Screw that. Everything is figureoutable ( thank you @marieforleo!). So I am saying Yes, choosing to believe that I can figure it out. If George can work for the Yankees, then I can certainly elevate my every day into new heights.
I am making myself and my health a priority this year by not jumping on the regimented, diet bandwagon. Instead, I am listening to science-based health audio-books/podcasts and mindfully changing how and what I eat. The progress is slow but I’ve already chipped away at 5 holiday pounds and feel more energetic.
I gave hot yoga a second chance. The steamy room combined with the heavy-metal blasting teacher of my first experience was so not my jam. Instead of writing it off (like I used to), I sought out different teachers and now I am HOOKED! I even go at 5:30 am. On those days, I feel like such a boss. A really sweaty, zen one but a boss nonetheless.
I quit my gym. That’s right, people! I am the one person who quite her gym in January! George would be proud. I didn’t like it! Why would I pay money and go someplace I really don’t like? The yoga studio feels so much more like home to me.
I am also resting more, something I never really allowed myself to do. This feels like a greater luxury than my car.
Do you see what I am doing? I am giving myself permission to try new things, new methods of doing and being and believing. Not only am I rewriting old scripts, I am investing in and taking a chance on ME.
When I give myself permission, self-care, and space, I can create, do, be, and have anything.
You can too! Self care is so important for implementing or reacting to any kind of change. That’s why I am so excited about our upcoming Sister Talk: Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul.
Please check it out if you haven't already done so.
So, what's your word for the year? Remember, our Herd come here to be inspired. Please share and keep the inspiration flowing! We'd be so grateful if you did.
Here's to Change!