Hi Herd, it's Cher here pondering on life goals. Recently I noticed a trend that finally got me to work on defining my life path.
More and more I was finding that many people have no idea what they want to do. They are confused, they do not know where to shoot and they simply react to what happens to them instead of being directed by self selected goals. Their lack of clarity preventing them from moving forward.
Then on the other side of the coin I started to notice people who have clearly defined their goals, know what they want and are willing to do whatever it takes to get it. These folks seem to have found a “magic bullet” towards success.
That lead me to ask… WHAT WILL MY STORY BE? Am I going to stumble, always in the first chapter of my own novel? Or am I willing to decide what it is I want and start walking the road?
This question is very important, because in the moment, in my day to day, being lost did not seem so serious. "It will be solved," I thought. "Everything happens for a reason" or "I’ll see what happens" I would say. But when the years pass, and you look back, we find that yes, there are experiences, and learning, and life ... but there is also paralysis, blockage and frustration.
The positive part is that the lack of clarity is a problem that can be fixed. We don’t have to wait for anyone to decide for us or for a miracle sign to appear. We can start today, decide a direction and move towards a goal. And the best part, there are solutions that are simple, cheap and practical.
These are my top 3 solutions to finding the road I would walk:
- Writing – writing helps you identify your values and transform them into objectives. It is very difficult to identify your values just by thinking, because the thoughts are often so abstract and scattered that we are easily distracted. However, when you train yourself in the discipline of writing what you think, you use your mind in the most powerful way that exists: to plan, remember, reflect and decide what is important to you. Putting your thoughts on paper invites you to give them coherence and structure, not to repeat yourself, to find where your ideas start and end. Allowing you to draw well-founded conclusions about what is important to you and what path you should take to achieve it.
- Conversation – Talking out loud about what’s going on in your head and explaining it to someone else, even if you think it doesn’t make sense, helps you to clarify. Saying things out loud, often makes them less scary, and at least by having to sort through your feelings you know a bit more about what you’re dealing with. Speaking to others helps put your wants into perspective and the person you talk to most likely will help you see your situation in a new or from a unique viewpoint.
- Visualization – The more you visualize, the more focused you'll be, and the more desire you'll develop for making your goals come to fruition. When you vividly imagine achieving your goals, you trigger a whole series of subconscious processes which will help you to reach your target. You will also get ideas and clues on how to overcome challenges on your path to success. By vividly imagining what to do, you'll experience insights which help keep you on track.
So, if you suffer from lack of clarity (as I have) you yourself can change it. Because I bet that you own something you can write with, know a friend you can chat with or have seen images that inspire you.
WHAT WILL YOUR STORY BE?